Comments on: Serious Humour, Tensed Smiles!

By: rena1053

rena1053 — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 12:36:43 +0000

@Chatan, The grumpy aunty works at the mall and is ALWAYS grumpy…if she ever ends up giving me a smile, I’m gonna go give her a BIG HUG! lol..
I agree that our expression of the face to a big extent depends on our state of mind but do we not posses the power to control our minds? Stress is everywhere, from the minute you wake up to the min you go to sleep, so I don’t buy this whole, “I’m stressed so I cant’ be nice” attitude of people. Besides, smiles are contagious. So, next time you see an irritated person, just give them a smile…It’ll not only brighten up your day but theirs as well!

By: Ashutosh

Ashutosh — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 09:58:44 +0000

@Chetan: Thanks Chetan for your input. In my opinion, Doctors’ tribe in India has one of the friendliest & gentlest faces. And if you feel about them being comparatively less friendlier, then it couldn’t be just because of their current state of mind. Probably our faces reflect the attitudes that our personalities wear. I agree that most of us are tensed due to the pressures our external world or society exerts upon our life. But we need to learn to change our attitude towards it. A smiling face is the first step to do so. And believe me a smile can change a lot.

By: Chetan

Chetan — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 08:59:44 +0000

Despite of being an Indian I do agree to some extent with Reena that we don’t have that much formality in our day to day life as other western peoples have. As I am an Indian and living in Oman and had chances to meet various doctors from different countries in my professional life, I also noticed that doctors from other countries like Sudan, Egypt, and Oman are more friendly than Indians. It doesn’t mean that all Indians are like that but most of them I mat have serious face without smile as compare to others.
But I do believe that expression of face to the some extend depends on the state of mind of that person at that time. One person who is not giving you smile (as example of grumpy aunty given by Reena) doesn’t mean that he/she always and with everybody have same expression.
It also happens that some persons have a habit of smiley face and some serious, and they don’t know what other person having impression of their habit.

By: Reena

Reena — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 16:29:13 +0000

lol…I wasn’t offended at all! :0)
And thank you for the encouragement and regardless of the reaction I get, I always make it a point to smile at everyone I meet.
******Brainwave***** maybe we as a nation lack simple etiquette…little things like…smiling at someone, saying please, or thank you and sorry. I’ve on my numerous visits to India; I’m yet to meet someone who apologizes for pushing me over or thanks me for holding the door open for them. Don’t get me wrong, I still love India and make it a point to visit every year!

By: Ashutosh

Ashutosh — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 14:49:33 +0000

Actually I erred due to the IP identity (and the flag you see after your name). Its a minor snag with major implications (perhaps) …I beg your pardon if it has bothered you.
Everything agreed whatever you said but one …I don’t wanna compromise with our shortcomings. Can’t anything be done to it? I wish that grumpy aunt do smile back at you on your next shopping trip. Be optimistic to an extent that your positive and cheerful vibrations are received well by that grumpy aunty. Do give it a try. Wishing you good luck!
Cheers!

By: Reena

Reena — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 14:01:57 +0000

lol…So its like saying you are from Pakistan instead of India! Right!?!? It wouldn’t bother you would it? :op
Anyway, I’m glad I was able to shed some light on the matter but please understand, we can’t mess with our genes…We have to just learn to live with our shortcomings as we always have! But It would be nice to receive a smile back from a grumpy aunty at the mall when I show her my pearly whites.

By: Ashutosh

Ashutosh — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 12:46:28 +0000

Well, it was a narrow miss (you r in a neighboring country anyways) . Till now I was thinking of this grumpy mindset being an universal issue. Thanks for your observation which concludes it to a grumpy India specific gene. But that doesn’t mean that Indians shouldn’t make any effort to replace these genes …I mean trying to be a little funny might actually turn out to be more funnier than expected.

By: Reena

Reena — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 12:32:44 +0000

I’m in Canada, not United States! And yes, I get to see a lot of smiling faces but amogst those smiles, I get to see a lot of grumpy indians! :op
I used to think it was probably due to the frustration of being in a completely different country but thats obviously isn’t the case! :)Maybe we don’t lack a funny bone, instead we posses a grumpy gene!!

By: Ashutosh

Ashutosh — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 07:37:10 +0000

@Reena: From your IP registered here, It seems you are in United States. What more, you are lucky enough to interact with lively and happy faces (excluding the Indian faces you come across ). It will be interesting if you can share some of the enlightening experiences gathered from your people-watching hobby here. Do sum-up your suggestions for making the life livelier.
Thanks for wondering… and pondering over the issue! and yes for dropping by at my blog.

By: Reena

Reena — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 17:52:15 +0000

Cute story!
My hobby is to people-watching, and many a times I’ve wondered why all Indian people between the ages of 35-55 always have that bitter/ annoyed look on their faces?? I am yet to meet a some who has a little bit of life left in them! Why all the frustration!??!?!